“You’re not desperate or anxious. You don’t date men who don’t want you. You believe in the abundance and goodness of the universe: if not him, someone better, you say. You don’t settle. You don’t chase anyone. You don’t use sex to make men love you. You believe in love and marriage. You’re not cynical. You don’t go to pieces when a relationship doesn’t work out. Instead, you get a manicure and go out on another date or to a singles dance. You’re an optimist. You brush away a tear so that it doesn’t smudge your makeup and you move on! Of course, that isn’t how you really FEEL. This is how you PRETEND you feel until it feels real. YOU ACT AS IF!” – From the book ALL THE RULES
